The Ascension PapersChapter 10. What is Evil?”The Rescuer is the last obstacle to the promotion of the soul.

The Ascension Papers

Chapter 10. What is Evil?

“The Rescuer is the last obstacle to the promotion of the soul. Of all addicts, the rescuer is the hardest to get rid of and the last to be released. “

Being of Assistance Without Becoming a Rescuer:

The Three-Step Process

Step 1: Raise your own consciousness to a higher vibration by saying to yourself:

“All is ONE and all is perfect. Both………….. (this other being’s name) and I are perfect expressions of the ONE. I wish to serve the highest good for all by assisting………….. to heal him/herself. I am motivated only by love.”

Step 2: Understand the position of this other being. You can do so by seeing yourself in their situation and also by talking to them and asking them questions about their experience until you really can understand their position. In this step you are not trying to fix anything, or change anything. This is not your opportunity to lecture them or tell them anything at all.

In this step you are simply trying to understand, as well as you possibly can, what their situation is and what it is that ails them. You may ask questions. Questions are good. But ask the questions that lead you to deeper understanding of their situation and exactly how they feel. In so doing you give them the first gift. You give them the gift of your attention.

If you can do this without any judgement or criticism, then you give them a very loving gift indeed. Keep going with this until you feel that you really understand their situation. And check with them that you do. Tell them what you have heard them say and ask if they agree that this is an accurate description of their experience. You will be amazed what a wonderful healing gift just this step will be.

Step 3: Once you have a really good grasp of the situation, you can ask yourself what is the very highest and best offering of assistance that you can give this other. What is it that you would want done for yourself if you were in their situation?

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How Should One Respond to the

Presence of Evil?

And so? Do you want to take a shot at it? How do you feel you should respond to the experience of evil?

Z: It seems that such an experience calls for a transcendent moment. It asks of me that I choose to remember that I really am one with all others. That I choose, and act, from a place of great love.

8: That is very well answered. And it is also in keeping with the other thing I told you about evil which was,

“If there is such a thing as evil, then it is an opportunity to learn about love.”

Z: I think I understand this pretty well but, I have to say I don’t yet completely feel it. And, I’m almost embarrassed to say, there is still an objection to this in my mind.

I feel as if I should be beyond this because it all still comes back to the whole victim/perpetrator/rescuer triangle. And I should have that one sorted by now. We have discussed it so much!

8: Go easy on yourself. It takes a lot of work to release deeply ingrained ideas and beliefs. Allow yourself a little grace. You have one final round to go with this triangle and I have been expecting this conversation.

So… out with it… what is bothering you? Then I can help you to move these insights from your head where you think it to be true, to your heart where you know it to be true.

The Victim Triangle – One Last Time

Z: It’s like this: I have come to see that evil is an illusion and that, by embracing the oneness, I can release myself from experiencing it. And that’s just dandy for me. But what about everyone else who is still suffering with it?

8: Ah. Compassion.

Compassion is a wonderful, and yet terrible, double-edged sword. It allows you to really share in another’s experience, which brings you closer to the oneness. But it also attaches you to this other’s suffering, which pulls you back into duality.

Let me ask you something. Over the last few years you have been very actively letting go of your own victim consciousness, have you not? You have been moving out of the victim relationships you have had with your world and moving into a new situation where you will be in greater harmony with life, have you not?

Z: You’re talking about my move from the city to the forest?

8: That is what happened on a physical level. But, of course, it is the movement that is happening on an emotional and spiritual level that I am more interested in. You have successfully concluded a radical transition in life choices, have you not?

Z: Yes I have, but…

8: So this is the outer-experience of someone who is seeking, and finding, his heart-connection.

If The Ascension Papers is the scaffolding, then your life is the structure you have built upon that scaffolding. You should find ways to keep telling your story, to keep sharing with others what you are doing. You will find that it brings you value to share it and others will find value in reading about what you are doing. And, more than that, you will find that doing so expands you. Telling your story will open you to giving even greater gifts.

Z: I can see how that is true. I have started a blog section on my website where I have been writing about my experiences with exiting my city lifestyle and moving to the forest and writing about this has been quite rewarding.

8: In unexpected ways, this will come to yield far greater rewards than you can now imagine.

But that is a side issue. The point is that you have been very active in making these changes to release yourself from your old victim relationships with the world. There has been massive movement in your psyche and this has been reflected in your external world. You have been letting go of victim and you are now discovering yourself to be a creator- being. Right?

Z: Every day more and more.

8: Okay. Well, here comes the question… Does the fact that you are doing this mean that you should insist and demand that everyone else in your world should also do this? Must everyone on the planet do what you are doing right now, just because you are doing it? Must every single person make the exact same choices you are making?

Z: No. That doesn’t seem reasonable. Of course not.

8: And so, what then about all the many others who still wish to play the victim game? Must they stop, right now, just because you decided to stop? Do you need to first force them to stop playing their victim game before you can go on and play another game? Or are you willing to let them do as they wish while you go and create a new game for yourself with those who share your vision of what constitutes a good game? A game that is more congruent with the kinder, more loving version of yourself that you discover yourself to be?

Z: When you put it like that, then I can see it. Obviously I must be willing to allow them to continue with their victim game if that is what they wish to do.

8: To take from them their right to choose, even if what they are choosing seems, to you, to be cruel and unkind, would be…

Z: Evil?

How odd. It would be evil to take from others their right to experience evil.

8: So then, the fact that there is the experience of evil to be had – and the fact that some are playing victim and perpetrator with each other – is this your problem?

Z: No, I guess not. I mean, I know it isn’t my problem. But then, why do I feel guilty for saying so?

8: It is really quite simply that you are experiencing one of your final objections to your decision to cease being a rescuer. You can see that you should be able to let people choose what they want to choose, but when their choices lead them into painful outcomes, that makes you feel uncomfortable. As if it were wrong of you to let them get on with what they have decided they want to do.

Of course you can do whatever you want to do. You can respond to every invitation to dance, exactly as you most desire. But what you should remember is that, with every choice you take, you create yourself. With each choice, you decide what your reality will be like. And if you are choosing to rescue someone, then you are creating yourself as the rescuer. And the rescuer is a part of the victim/perpetrator/rescuer triangle. And all three of those are actually, when properly understood, just victims. If you choose to rescue anyone, then you are still choosing to be a victim and giving up your divine right to be a creator-being. If you choose that, then you continue to reside inside this separation reality at the level of duality consciousness.

Z: It’s disappointing to realise that I am still not done with this.

8: Rescuer is the final hurdle for the ascending soul. Of all the victim addictions, rescuer is by far the most difficult to kick, and it is also the last one to be released. In the analogy of the monastic order we used above, finally letting go of rescuer would be like a tycoon being able to choose poverty and enter the monastery.

Z: Why is rescuer so difficult to release?

8: Well, with rescuer you get to tell yourself a story about what a good and noble person you are being. You are helping! That is good! While victim is a weak person and perpetrator is a bad person, when you are in rescuer mode you get to tell yourself that you are being a good person.

The problem with this is that you inevitably find all of your good intentions going up in smoke. The victims you rescue become dependent upon you and start claiming more and more from you. Then you start to resent the victims and start to withhold help. Then the victims feels as if they are your victim because you aren’t fulfilling your side of the bargain. And you feel like a victim because the victims are abusing your good nature. And the perpetrators hate you for meddling in their relationships with the victims. And soon, all of you need help. And then, who are you going to call?

Z: Err… Ghostbusters?

8: (laughs) Very funny.

Z: (smiles) I do see what you are saying, though – then all three of us will need a rescuer. And then what?

8: One way or another, it never ends. As long as you are holding onto the idea of yourself as a rescuer then, in truth, you are keeping yourself in victim. You will never be free of the triangle.

Z: Okay. So I have previously decided to be done with rescuer. I reaffirm that decision now.

8: Excellent.

This is exactly how you transform your consciousness. You make a decision to hold a new perspective and then, each time an objection to that new perspective arises, you deal with it by finding a way to make the same decision again, even in light of the objection. Then you return to that new perspective. You navigate the transition in your consciousness by overcoming the obstacles that the objections to it represent. In time you will have hurdled all of your objections and you will find yourself permanently residing in that new perspective. That’s how it works and that is what we are doing here. That is how you are transforming yourself from a victim to a creator.

Z: I do see that and I thank you for being with me every step of the way.

I can do with a little more help, though. What would you suggest; how should I respond to a world in which I see people making choices which lead them to painful outcomes?

8: I have a strategy, which I can offer you. If you encounter someone who is clearly in need of help, then this strategy will allow you to offer them assistance without lapsing into rescuer.

Z: That sounds awesome, thanks 8.

8: And, while we are at it, we will look at the other two legs of the victim triangle too, namely victim and perpetrator. I will offer you strategies, which you may adapt to your own life if you find yourself in any of these modes. Together, these strategies will go some way towards answering the question of, “How do I deal with the presence of evil?”

Firstly: Where You Are The Perpetrator

This occurs when you find yourself in a situation where you have, either intentionally or unintentionally, made another being feel as if their choices have been removed from them.

What should you do?

Start with courage in hand. Be brave and face what you have done. If at all possible, speak to the victim and seek first to understand very clearly from them how they have experienced the situation. What did they feel? How were they hurt? When you have asked all the questions you needed ask, such that you feel you have really understood their experience and that they have said everything they might have wanted to say to you, then you should feed back to them what you have heard and check with them that you have really understood their perspective correctly. When they agree that you have a really good understanding of how they felt then, and only then, is it time for you to give them your perspective. If you give your side before you have completely understood theirs, then you will be tempted to simply make excuses for yourself, to try to “get out of it”. This is just being a cowardly. So have the courage first to truly and deeply see the experience from the victim’s side. Then tell them why you did what you did. Tell them from your heart what it was that you intended and what motivated you. In all probability you never intended to do the harm that was done. In all probability it was an unintended side-effect of your trying to do something else entirely. Explain yourself as best you can and ask them then to feed back to you what they have heard from you. Work with them until you feel that they have correctly understood you and your motivations.

When this is done, then the healing can begin. Now you must undertake not to do this again. You have seen how it caused harm, so make the choice not to hurt yourself or any other like this again. It is very useful if you can try to find the very deepest core choice or belief that allowed this to happen. If you work with a surface choice, then you will have to address this again and again until you do find the core choice that does not serve you. Tell your victim about your new decision and tell them how it is that you believe this new decision will keep you from hurting them or anyone else in this manner ever again.

The next thing to do is to seek redress. Try to find something that you can do for the person whom you have harmed that will somehow balance the harm you have done. If it is possible to directly repair that which was damaged, then do that and more. If this is not possible, then try to do something else for them, which will benefit them in greater measure than the harm done to them. What I am suggesting is that you see if you can can give back more than you took. And make your redress as personal as possible and as directly related to the healing of the harm you did as possible.

When this is done, work to gain every iota of wisdom that you can from the experience. Bring to your consciousness everything that you have learned from this. Make a note also to be compassionate in future of others who misstep in ways similar to that which you have done.

After all this is concluded, you will have balanced and redressed the harm. You will have forgiveness from the other and from yourself. You will have gained the compassion and wisdom enfolded in the situation. You will be done here.

And that is what you do when you find yourself cast as the perpetrator.

Z: That is some good stuff, 8. I can see that this would really work to bring balance and healing.

8: If you are of sufficient consciousness that you would be willing and able to apply these principles, then you are quite seldom going to find yourself in the perpetrator role. But it certainly can still happen. As we have been discussing in the last few chapters, you yourself came to feel as if you were a perpetrator on quite a large scale. So this can happen, even to the ascending soul.

Z: So, 8, what about when you can’t have that kind of a discussion with your victim. Like, if they are no longer incarnated or if they are not personally known to you.

8: Then life will have that conversation with you. Just as we have discussed. You will get the experience back from life so that you really and truly do understand. Until you get what you have done, you are not done. When you do, then you can say, “I get it,” and mean it. Then you can say, “I am sorry,” and mean it. And you can tell your story to whomsoever will have use of it so that they can understand it without it being you just making excuses. And then you can know what it is that you want to give back to Life by way of redress.

Z: Um. That brings me to a next point. I really do want to give a gift to life. It’s odd. When I first became aware that I had to revise The Ascension Papers and release the 3rd edition, I didn’t really know why but I had the strongest feeling that I wanted to make at least the e-book version available for free. Since there are no printing or postage costs, I can do that. And then I can give this book away to anybody and everybody who wants it. And that thought arrived at the same time as the thought that I needed to correctly explain the Singularity Event. It was the same thought: “Get it right and give it away for free.” And now it seems to me that this is my redress. On a deep, deep level I knew that making this text available for free to all who want it and have need of it will not just redress my previous harm but, being free, this book will then be able to get to many, many more people than otherwise. So then I am more than redressing the harm.

And also this does seem to be as direct a response to my misstep as is possible.

8: There is a poetic harmony in this. So if that is what your heart calls you to do, then I support this idea entirely.

One word of caution, however. Don’t overbalance so far in the opposite direction that you cause imbalance. Don’t now block the energy flow. By all means do as you intend and make this work available for free but do not disallow others from giving something back, if they feel called to do so. What I am saying is that one must never block your ability to receive over a desire to give. That will just get you stuck at another, higher level of consciousness – in polarity rather than in duality.

Z: I’ll give all of this some careful thought and come up with an answer from my heart, thank you, 8.

(Zingdad note: Please see the “Closing Thoughts” section at the end of this book for this and so much more.)

8: You do that.

Now, let’s move onto the next way in which you can perceive evil.

Secondly: When You Are The Victim

If you can get the perpetrator to play ball and go through the same process outlined above, then that would be great. But ultimately, if your perpetrator was willing to go through such a process, then you wouldn’t really see yourself as a victim. Just someone involved in an unhappy circumstance that eventually turned out okay. So, if you are really feeling like a victim, then it is because you feel that this other being will never right the wrong they have done to you.

What to do then?

The very first thing to do when you are feeling like a victim is to give yourself choices. When you have choices that you can take, then you are immediately a creator again. And you cannot be both a creator and a victim unless you are a creator who is creating the illusion that you are a victim. Which is exactly what you will be doing in this situation.

So that is the first thing you must do. Move your consciousness into creator mode. Recognise that you have choices. A very powerful thing you can do in this regard is to say to yourself:

“In every moment I create myself with my choices. What choices do I have now and how will I create myself with each of those choices?”

Then list your choices. Think of every possible thing you can conceive of that you could do in this situation. Write them down, if there are more than a handful. Then, next to each choice, write down what kind of a person you would be if you made that choice. Be honest and clear. Then write down what kind of person you really want to be. You might for example want to be, “the most magnificent, loving version of myself,” or possibly, “the wisest, most creative person I can be,” or something like that.

Now see if any of the choices you wrote down conform to a choice that would be taken by that most loving and magnificent version of yourself. Chances are none of them do. That is why you are experiencing yourself as a victim. Because you aren’t choosing to be the highest version of Self that you can be. The victim experience is a gift. It is asking of you to choose again.

And now you are in a magical and wondrous moment. Some alchemy of the soul is about to happen, if you will only let it. Now you can ask yourself the very important question, “What would the most magnificent, loving version of myself do in this situation?” Does the answer come to mind immediately? Then write it down. Then do it! If you don’t have an immediate answer to your question, you can simply allow yourself to “percolate”. Hold the question in your heart and be willing to hear the answer. Perhaps you will wake up the next morning with the answer. Perhaps you will receive it indirectly from someone else or through inspiration. But let me tell you this, if you hold the question in your heart the answer will come.

And when it does come, you might feel resistant to it. It might feel like it is “unfair” to not try to punish your perpetrator. Or it might feel like you won’t be able to rise above your feelings of anger and betrayal. Or whatever. The point is that this, right here, is your first objection. You know what to do, but you have an objection to doing it. So what will you choose?

And while you are working this choice out for yourself, it might be very useful to do some delving into your psyche. Go into your deepest beliefs and memories. Especially your childhood. Go and find the seed-thought which you hold that caused you to invite this experience of victimhood into your life. Realise that you are holding onto beliefs that are not bringing you closer to love, joy or peace. Work with it until you find the beliefs that you are holding onto that are inviting the victim experiences you are having. Work with them until you are ready to let them go.

And if you cannot? If you find yourself to be stuck? Then I would recommend that you seek a gifted counsellor or therapist to help with this. It might be that the deepest origin of your pain is beyond your reach – in another lifetime or at another level of existence altogether. In such an instance, it can be very beneficial to seek external assistance from someone capable of offering you input and guidance.

(Zingdad note: When 8 first uttered these words to me, I had no idea that I would come to be one of those people; a healer who can offer assistance with exactly these kinds of processes. It is truly amazing how life proceeds, is it not? And so, certainly, if you need help to heal and release your own victim-pain, then assuredly that is something I am really very, very good at. See my Soul Re-Integration page on zingdad.com for more information.)

If you are willing to chose to rise above your victim situation and to do as your grandest version of Self would do then, one way or another, this will be possible for you. And if you stay with that choice long enough, you will see the wonderful outcomes that will flow forth from it. You will come to feel light and free. You will come to know yourself as the powerful creator being that you truly are.

You see?

Z: Yes. I do see.

8: But you must seek. And you must be willing to change.

When the soul is ready to progress, it will do so. If it struggles to do so, then help is available. If it is ready and willing to accept the help, then the path will open up.

Z: I see. I like that.

8: And then, in due course, you will find that you are no longer having victim experiences. You will find that you are making decisions which allow you to leave behind all those relationships which do not serve you. And then you will finally be ready to know that, indeed, you have created every single victim experience you have ever had.

And then you will be done with being a victim!

Z: Awesome! Thanks 8. And the third victim state is rescuer?

8: Correct.

Thirdly: When You Are The Rescuer

When someone in your life finds themselves feeling like a victim, you might find them reaching out to you for help. If you yourself are still of victim consciousness, then you are very likely to be pulled into playing rescuer to this other being. If, on the other hand, you are completely done with the victim triangle, then you will not have that difficulty. You will see their whole situation for what it is. You will see that they are creating their entire drama all for their own purposes, just as you used to do when you played the same victim game. And you will see that their pain is not of your making and that, in fact, you cannot be responsible for healing their pain.

You cannot choose for them.

You cannot fix them.

You cannot change them.

And you would know that, were you to try, then you would very soon embroil yourself in their pain, starting out as their rescuer and then moving swiftly to becoming both their perpetrator and their victim. You would not be willing to do that and you would be fully aware that, in fact, only they can heal themselves. They themselves first need to decide that their life is not as they would wish it to be. If they find that they cannot, by themselves, affect the change that they desire, then, of course, they can ask for help. For no help can come to anyone who is unwilling to be helped.

Now, it is possible that this person does not know how to do all of this. Perhaps they believe that something or someone outside of themselves must change before they can be happy. Perhaps they wish to see how they are responsible for their own choices but don’t know how to come to that perspective. Perhaps they don’t know how to find out which choices are harming them. Perhaps they don’t know how to make better choices. And so it could be possible for you to help them to help themselves without moving into rescuer.

Z: And you are going to share with me a strategy for doing this?

8: I am. Let us formalise it into a three-step process:

Being of Assistance Without Becoming a Rescuer:

The Three-Step Process

Step 1: Raise your own consciousness to a higher vibration by saying to yourself:

“All is ONE and all is perfect. Both………….. (this other being’s name) and I are perfect expressions of the ONE. I wish to serve the highest good for all by assisting………….. to heal him/herself. I am motivated only by love.”

Step 2: Understand the position of this other being. You can do so by seeing yourself in their situation and also by talking to them and asking them questions about their experience until you really can understand their position. In this step you are not trying to fix anything, or change anything. This is not your opportunity to lecture them or tell them anything at all. In this step you are simply trying to understand, as well as you possibly can, what their situation is and what it is that ails them. You may ask questions. Questions are good. But ask the questions that lead you to deeper understanding of their situation and exactly how they feel. In so doing you give them the first gift. You give them the gift of your attention.

If you can do this without any judgement or criticism, then you give them a very loving gift indeed. Keep going with this until you feel that you really understand their situation. And check with them that you do. Tell them what you have heard them say and ask if they agree that this is an accurate description of their experience. You will be amazed what a wonderful healing gift just this step will be.

Step 3: Once you have a really good grasp of the situation, you can ask yourself what is the very highest and best offering of assistance that you can give this other. What is it that you would want done for yourself if you were in their situation?

Z: Oh right:,”Do unto others as you would that they should do unto you.”

8: That’s it.

But here comes the twist. And pay attention, because this is important.

Before you actually offer any assistance, remember, whatever you do to this other being, you do to yourself also. So be willing to experience for yourself whatever you are giving to this other being and then watch for it. It will find its way to you. If, for example, you rush in and take away this other being’s choices, then you will come to find your choices being taken away too. If you treat the other being as if they are not actually capable of finding their own way, then you too will come to lose your way. If, on the other hand, you offer loving and respectful assistance, then this will be offered to you too when you need it. If you treat this being as part of the oneness, then you will find yourself feeling as if you are part of the oneness too.

You get the idea?

Not only, “Do unto others that which you would have done to you,” but, “Do unto others, realising that you are doing exactly that to yourself.” Be sure that you are ready to have this done to you also.

Z: I see. That is excellent advice, 8. I can see that this could really help without causing me to be pulled into rescuer.

8: I have something more that I would like to offer you in this regard.

Z: Please…

8: If you were stuck in victim, is it not true that what you would most like is to be helped out of victim? To be helped to see that you are actually the creator of your own reality? Would that not be the way you would want yourself to be helped in such a circumstance?

Z: Yes. That certainly would be what I would want for myself.

8: Well, if it should come to be that you wish to assist someone else who is in a victim state then, obviously, what you will wish to do for them is to help them to return to creator consciousness.

Z: “Do unto others” and all that…

8: Precisely.

Now, as with all things, there is a right way to do this and a wrong way. The wrong way is to tell this person who is sitting in their pain and confusion to, “Pull yourself together because you just created all of this yourself anyway!”

Z: (laugh) Oh my goodness, I can see how that wouldn’t work!

8: No, indeed. The right way is far more gentle and loving than that. And far more effective. If you can help this being to see that they have options and choices, then they can immediately move out of victim.

Z: Oh, right… just the same as I would do for myself if I found myself in victim.

8: Isn’t that what we are saying? Do to the other exactly as you would like to have done to yourself.

Z: Yes, I see.

8: So, just as you would go about showing yourself that you have choices, so you could help a friend who is in victim to realise that they always have choices. And if they are open to it, you might be able to help them to reach for a transcendent choice… a choice that not only shows them that they are not a victim but, in fact, a far greater version of themselves than they previously thought.

And that is the path of the unifier. That is the way of a being who is returning to oneness.

Z: That’s brilliant, 8. Thank you. I will apply that to my life. I will make it my way.

8: Instead of simply accepting this as gospel, I would suggest to you that you try living this and then see how it works for you. In keeping with all that I have just said, I ask you to remember I am not here to impart instructions or doctrine or dogma. I am simply offering you choices. So if you choose to take this on board, then I recommend that you do so with an experimental mind-set. If you want to try it out, then of course you need to really live it in your every interaction, every day. Do this for a while until it feels natural. Then take stock of your life and see if you are happier with yourself when you live this way or not. See if your life brings you greater joy or not. See if you feel greater love for yourself and for others or not. Decide if this is right for you based upon your own experience, rather than based upon my say so.

Z: Got it. Thanks 8.

8: Good then. But before we can move on from here, I would like us to do a little practical work. Let’s see how you would apply your new understandings, shall we?

Z: Okay…

8: All right, then let’s create a scenario. Imagine you have a friend, let’s call him Uther, who is quite badly stuck in victim consciousness. Uther is struggling a bit with his life and many aspects of it are just not working out for him. He expresses to you some ideas such as, “I hate my job and my boss is an idiot,” or, “These stupid politicians are screwing up the whole country,” or, “My wife just doesn’t understand me,” or, “Nothing ever goes my way,” or, “If I had just had different parents as a kid I wouldn’t be so messed up today,” or, “If only my body wasn’t such a mess, I’d be happy.” Such ideas. You can see that he is in pain. You can see that his life is not bringing him joy and that he clearly doesn’t know how to improve matters.

Now that you know what you know, what would you do?

Z: Hmm… I can empathise. I have felt some of these things in my life and so I know what he is feeling. I’m not there any more – I now understand things differently. But I sure can understand that he is where he is.

8: So? What do you do?

Z: Well… let me apply the three steps.

First I recognise that all is ONE and all is perfect. Both Uther and I are perfect expressions of the ONE. I wish to serve the highest good for all by assisting Uther to heal himself. I am motivated only by love.

Second and third I state my intent to make a choice which not only does to Uther that which I would want done to myself, but does to Uther realising that I am doing exactly that to myself… that I am willing to make that exact choice for myself.

(I give a little thought to the situation and then…)

All right. This is what I have come up with. Uther has not actually asked me for help. He is simply expressing pain. So I don’t know if he just wants to moan or if he actually wants to move out of victim. So I’ll begin by deciding if I want to sit in commiseration with Uther or not. If I do, then I’ll be right there with him where he is at. I’ll let him tell me about his pain and confusion and give him a safe place to share without being judgemental and without criticising him or making him wrong. At most I will ask him questions that will allow him to better express what is going on in his life. I’ll make sure that I am really hearing him and check my understanding with him to be sure that I have really got it. I will give him the gift of my full attention and my listening. I will bear witness. I will “be present” with Uther.

That is the choice I have come up with and I feel that it is a good one because it is congruent with the three steps. I myself would be very, very happy if someone should offer me such an attentive and loving ear if I had some pain that I was working through.

8: Excellent. You make me proud. And I can give you another reason why this is a good choice: if you were to apply this, you would be amazed at how much progress Uther would make towards solving his own problems.

Just being in the presence of a loving, attentive listener like that will almost always bring great healing. Progress will follow. And after simply talking to you in this manner, Uther is most likely to say to you, “You have helped me so much!” or something similar. And you will tell him, “No, my friend, I just listened. You helped yourself.” And both of you will walk away feeling uplifted.

Quite different from the situation where you decide to rush in and rescue Uther, where you tell him exactly how he must pull himself together and what he should do to fix up his life. Such a path would result in you both feeling blocked, unheard and resentful.

Z: Hmm. Yes. I’ve been there. On both sides of that equation. It just doesn’t work.

8: All right now, the next question. What will you do if Uther did actually ask you for help and advice? Perhaps he finds he is not making enough progress by just talking about his life. Or perhaps he sees that you are not struggling as he is and wants to tap into your learning and experience. What then?

Z: Again I will apply the three steps. (I give it a little thought…)

What I have come up with is that it will be unhelpful if I tell Uther what he must do.

I think a really great way for me to tell him what I think, is by telling him some appropriate part of my story. Then he can hear for himself how similar (or otherwise) he thinks my experience was to his and he can hear what I did in that situation and how it turned out for me. Then he can decide for himself if he will do as I did, or do as I suggest (if that is different from what I actually did). I will make it clear to him that I do not expect of him that he should do what I say. I offer my thoughts with love and he is welcome to do with them as he sees fit.

This works for me because, again, it is congruent with the three steps. If I had a friend who had sorted something out that I was still struggling with, I would like it if I could ask his advice. I would want him to have the freedom to give me his advice. I would want it given in such a way as to allow me to see how he had applied it in his life and how it had worked for him, or why it was that he felt it would work for me. And finally, I wouldn’t want him to get all attached to the outcome that I should do exactly as he said. If I wanted to hear his advice, and yet have the freedom not to apply it, that should be okay with him. Or else I wouldn’t want his advice at all.

8: That is well said.

And I’d like to point something out to you.

Z: Yes?

8: if your friend Uther asked you for advice on how he could free himself from his victim consciousness… is it not possible that you could simply share The Ascension Papers with him?

Z: Oh, right. (laughs) That is exactly what I could have done! And it is exactly what I would have wanted. When I felt deeply lost in my own victim state, I would have wanted someone to give me exactly this book.

8: So truly, The Ascension Papers is you doing to others that which you would most like done to yourself.

Z: Hmm… yes… I see! This is quite perfect, isn’t it?

8: Together all of us are providing the Self with a path out of a difficult position in a way that is both gentle and respectful. It is true that the Self who writes the book and the Self who reads this book may choose to accept the wisdom herein or reject it. Or to take the bits and pieces they might like. This is the way you would want it to be given to you, is it not? Sharing with no coercion?

Z: It is, yes.

8: And so you give away that which you most desire and, in so doing, you give it to yourself! That is the beauty of your sharing it.

And so we discover an important corollary to the idea that you should only give to another that which you are willing to receive for yourself. It is this: if there is something you feel you want or need, then you should find a way to give that which you need to another. Because indeed it is so that you always gain that which you first give away.

Z: That’s lovely, 8. I understand that in a whole new way now. I will apply this and see how it works for me.

8: Good boy! And so you can reaffirm the decision to let go of the need to rescue anyone ever again, can’t you?

Z: I certainly can. That objection is dealt with.

Because when I play rescuer, then I am giving away that which I actually don’t want. I don’t want someone else to make my decisions for me, to take my learning opportunities from me or to tell me what to do.

8: Good. So then don’t do it to others.

Give only that which you would desire for yourself.

Z: That’s great, thanks 8.

You know, it’s strange that I felt embarrassed to again raise the subject of being a rescuer when I had felt like it had been dealt with many times already. I felt like I was being silly. But it is plain now that there was so much more for me to learn about this. So I am really pleased now that I did raise it again.

8: I wish you to understand that the work of re-creation of the Self (which is what you are doing here) is challenging indeed. Every single human being on planet Earth is already held in the very highest regard by those of the higher realms and other realities precisely because of the profundity of the task that you have, collectively and individually, willingly shouldered. And this work of the transformation of conscious is the very cutting edge of the miracle that is the experiment called “humanity”. And dealing with your objections is how you work these transformations in your own consciousness.

This is why you find me to be patient in addressing these issues with you. If you were truly just wasting time and energy and “being silly” then, you know full well, I’d not entertain that.

Now. There is one last thing I would say to you about helping other beings who find themselves in victim. It is this: please remember that it is their perfect right to remain in victim, if that is what they wish. The fact that they are asking you for help does not mean you should attach yourself to the idea that they should change in the way you want them to change. You can offer your help but you cannot force them to take it. You cannot demand of them that they do what you expect them to do, simply because they have expressed a need to you. Almost everyone on this planet is still busy playing the victim game. Most people still need their victim dramas to continue to play out so that they can have the experiences they came here to have. Even if they ask you for help and even if they say they want to stop playing victim, still it might be that they actually want, and need, to continue with victim. It is not your place to coerce them to change.

Z: Yes, I can see that. I agree that I should either offer my help without expectation. Or not offer it at all.

8: Yes. Apply the three-step process with courage and an open heart. At the very least you will be creating yourself as a being of loving compassion who is not a victim. That is a good start. The degree to which the other being gains value and makes changes in their life is up to them.

Z: Thank you, 8. I will try all these strategies and see how they work in my life.

8: Good. If properly applied and adapted to each situation, you should find yourself releasing the direct experience of evil from your own situation.

Z: Thanks, 8.

But what about indirect experiences? Like… what about all the stuff that goes on “out there” in the world? There is a whole lot of bad stuff happening on this planet. While it doesn’t necessarily impact my life directly, I am still very much aware of it. Can you help me to find a healthy perspective on that so that I can release it and let it go?

8: That sounds like the perfect cue for the third part of this conversation:

Manifestations of Evil

We aren’t going to look at all the ways in which evil is manifest. A complete list would need many more pages than you would be able to type. What we are going to do is to confine ourselves to addressing the areas of concern that you asked about in the opening to this chapter.

These were:

1. People willing to commit genocide for the sake of power, wealth or political expediency

2. Terrorists

3. People who would rape or abuse women and children

4. Demons and demonic possession

5. Lucifer, Satan and the Devil

I’m going to talk to you about each of these issues and then, when I am done, you will be able to release your concerns about them. And then you will also be willing to understand that it is truly so that…

“If there is such a thing as evil, then it is an opportunity to learn about love.”

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