As long as you stay in the fight, in the finger-pointing, in the resentment of others because of what they said or what they did, the less you grow, because the focus is on something or someone outside of you, rather than yourself.

As long as you stay in the fight, in the finger-pointing, in the resentment of others because of what they said or what they did, the less you grow, because the focus is on something or someone outside of you, rather than yourself.

When you exist in the present moment, and when you are able to be honest with yourself about how you feel in the present moment, that’s when everything can change, and that’s the only time everything can change around you. You can yell very loud to try to get someone to be different, to try to get them to look within themselves, or you can take a few deep breaths, process your emotions, and do the work that needs to be done on yourself. Then when you approach another person to have a conversation, you are not going to make things worse. You are not going to escalate the situation because of the hurt that you are feeling, because of the anger you are carrying within you.